In a world where motherhood often carries silent burdens and relentless expectations, Tochi Opara is redefining what it means for moms to thrive. A devoted wife, mother of three, and public servant by day, Tochi is also the heart behind Talking Mom Stress, The Momstress Symposium, and Moms’ Dayout—platforms built to uplift, support, and empower mothers through every twist and turn of their journey.
Rooted in empathy and shaped by personal experience, Tochi’s mission is clear: to help moms prioritize their well-being, find joy in the everyday, and embrace the power of community. In this honest and inspiring conversation, she opens up about the loss that changed her perspective, the calling that fuels her work, and the practical ways she balances purpose with presence. Her story is a timely reminder that motherhood isn’t about doing it all—it’s about doing it with love, intention, and the support you deserve.
Let’s Begin With You-Who is Tochi beyond the amazing work you do? What Dreams And Passion Have Shaped Your Path?
Tochi loves the simple things of life, even though I have diverse interests. I am married to an amazing and supportive man, and we have three kids. By day, I’m a public servant monitoring the movement of non-Nigerians across our nation’s borders, while also advocating for moms’ well-being through my community, Talkingmomstress. By night, I’m a movie buff, voiceover artist, and planning the next fun trip for moms. I’m also stepping into the world of hosting kiddies’ events!
I’m driven by a love for community building and empowering other moms to find fulfillment in their motherhood journey. I am passionate about creating supportive networks, sharing resources, and fostering meaningful connections among mothers—helping moms build confidence, prioritize self-care, and celebrate their unique experiences. Ultimately, I aim to empower them to thrive in their roles and find joy in motherhood.
What inspired you to create a space for mothers? Was There a Defining Moment That Made You Realize You Were Called to Do More In This Area?
I’ve always had a soft spot for mothers and the elderly. Growing up with my grandma, who was blind but fiercely independent, instilled in me a deep appreciation for strong women. It was a source of inspiration for me as well. Women are powerful, but even the strongest of us need support from time to time and a space to unburden.
During COVID, friends and colleagues reached out for advice on managing stress and finding balance while parenting at home. I shared tips on creating schedules that balance parenting and personal time, and mindfulness practices that helped them cope with the challenges of parenting at home. One friend told me that my advice helped her establish a morning routine that gave her a sense of calm and control. Another colleague shared that my suggestions on prioritizing self-care helped her manage stress and focus on her needs. These made me feel good. I was filled with gratitude and positivity and decided to take it to a bigger stage.
This experience, combined with my personal loss and journey as a mom, fueled my passion to create a supportive community for mothers. As a mom myself, I’ve learned that asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. I’ve navigated similar challenges, and I’m always open to supporting anyone I can. My vision is to create a community where moms can share their experiences, find support, and grow together. I believe moms deserve a safe space to share, connect, and find resources to thrive.
You Have Shared How Stress Played a Role In Your Mother’s Passing. How did That Painful Experience Turn Into a Powerful Mission For You?
Losing my mother to a heart attack was an eye-opener for me. She was extremely stressed from work. Truly, there is no reward for the most hardworking mom—only burnout, stress, and more work. And if you continue to give more of yourself, pouring from an empty cup, then you already know the inevitable will occur.
Unfortunately, she didn’t live long enough to enjoy the fruits of her labor. It hit me that life is short and the quality of our lives matters. In my grief as a young girl, I made a promise to myself to do things differently.
Now, I prioritize my own well-being and help other moms do the same. I’m on a mission to support mothers in finding balance in their season, building community, setting necessary boundaries, and enjoying their mom lives too. You are not just living for family—and you don’t need to drown in all the work you do either!
Many Moms Feel Like They Have To Choose Between Their Dreams And Being Present. How Have You Been Able to Pursue your calling while being present for your family?
As a mom, I’ve learned to focus on what truly matters in each season of my journey. I set healthy boundaries, seek support, and involve my family in my work. I cannot do it alone. I believe in outsourcing and rescheduling when possible to prioritize quality time with my loved ones and nurture my own needs. You know, a happy mom creates a happy home. By doing so, I’m modeling the importance of self-care and pursuing one’s passions without compromising on the important things.
What does “being the best version of yourself stress-free” mean to you especially as a mom with a mission?
For me, being the best version of myself means achieving my goals while embracing growth and self-improvement. I prioritize self-care, set realistic expectations, and intentionally find joy in my journey. By living mindfully and authentically, I also focus on progress, not perfection. Through continuous learning, I’m becoming a better, more aware, less stressed, and fulfilled version of myself.
What Are Some Everyday Habits or Mindset Shifts That Help You Stay Grounded And Purposeful?
I always say, “Do one thing for yourself daily.” I never go a day without doing something special for myself because I deserve it, and it’s not just a privilege. When I say “something special,” it’s basically something good that makes me feel happy—not necessarily big things. It could be adding one extra chicken for me, making something I’m craving, watching a new movie, or just going to sit out somewhere—depending on how I’m feeling, the convenience, or what I need at that time. One way I achieve this is to schedule it as one of my top 3 daily priorities. With my kids older, it’s a little easier to carve out alone time now, which helps me stay grounded and focused. Having it as a routine has been instrumental in maintaining this habit.
On mindset shifts, I often remind myself that motherhood is a journey with its ups and downs, and every day is unique and a fresh start to do better. I often try to look at the brighter side of things. It is also a higher calling that I am blessed with—not to overwhelm me but to elevate me and open layers of me I didn’t even know existed or I was capable of.
Finally, practicing gratitude and knowing that God gave me these kids and a family of my own—and trusting in His plan for me—strengthens me and gives me confidence in my abilities as a mother.
What Have You Discovered About Yourself through motherhood and Through Building Your community?
Motherhood no be beans oh. It will stretch and stress you to your wit’s end!
Motherhood has taught me patience, empathy, resilience, selflessness, and the drive to adapt. Raising curious kids in a changing world can be challenging, but I focus on responding wisely and encouraging them to think for themselves too. As a millennial mum with Gen A kids, the battle isn’t for the weak. Building my community has shown me the power of connection and the impact we can have when we support one another. It’s a beautiful thing to know that we are different, yet our experiences are quite similar—and you have someone you can quickly reach out to when you need a shoulder to lean on.
Were There Moments You Doubted Yourself or Felt Like Giving Up? What Helped You Keep Going?
Yes, there have been lots of moments of doubt. It’s inevitable. I wasn’t born a mom, and I’m not perfect! Heck, motherhood is a forever school of learning, unlearning, and relearning. Through the chaos, I find myself asking if what I’m doing is right, if I’m making the best decisions. But I take courage seeing my kids grow, thrive, and blossom. And then I tap myself on the back and say, “You’re doing well!”
Another thing that helps me and keeps me going is revalidating my purpose, seeking support from loved ones, and celebrating my wins—no matter how little.
What Does Support Look Like In Your Life-And How Can Moms Who Feel Alone Begin to Find or Build That Support?
I wouldn’t be able to do all I do if I didn’t have a good support system. My partner does a lot—same goes for my immediate family—but it’s much more than that. So, for me, support looks like having a valuable network of people who show up for you and whom you can rely on in times of need. It could include loved ones, fellow moms, your kids’ school, friends, colleagues, old school mates, your place of worship, medical/health professionals, and online communities who offer emotional support, practical help, and valuable advice.
To build support, moms who feel alone can start by joining online communities or social media pages for mothers, reaching out to friends, family, or neighbors who may be going through similar experiences. They can also join support groups that align with their values or address their struggles and actively participate in their programs/events.
They can also build their own support systems by starting a (neighborhood) support group—online or offline—and connecting with other moms. Volunteering at events that cater to mothers can help, and seeking professional help like therapy or counseling when needed. You need to be a good support as well to be able to build one yourself. So, groom your friendships and don’t be an islander.
What Would You Say to moms Who Feel called to do more but is Overwhelmed or Unsure Where to Start?
You’re not alone in feeling overwhelmed, and your feelings are valid. You might feel overwhelmed because you’re trying to see the end from the beginning or looking at how tasking the process is. However, clarity comes in the doing—so start small. Day one is better than one day.
Ask yourself, “What’s one thing I can (easily) do today to get started?”
If you don’t know where to start, try focusing on your passions and interests. Then break them down into little manageable tasks and schedule time for them. Also, connect with others who share similar goals or experiences to keep you accountable and motivated. Remember to celebrate every win, no matter how small. Progress may be slow, but it’s worth it. You’ve got this—you’re tougher than you think, and you can navigate challenges. Just take that first step, and trust the journey will unfold.
Tochi’s mission to empower and support mothers is rooted in empathy, lived experience, and a deep passion for community. Through her platforms and personal story, she reminds us that while motherhood is not without its challenges, it is also a journey of discovery, strength, and purpose. By choosing to care for herself and model this for others, Tochi continues to lead with love, inspire change, and make space for moms to thrive—not just survive.
To support Tochi and be a part of her mission to help mothers thrive: Follow her on Instagram at @talkingmomstress, @momz_dayout, and stay updated on The Momstress Symposium via @tms.symposium. Planning for this year’s symposium is underway, and she’s open to collaborations and all forms of support.
Motherhood and ambition often feel like a delicate balancing act. For many women, the journey of raising a family while pursuing personal dreams can feel overwhelming—sometimes even impossible. But what if the fear of “how will I manage?” wasn’t a reason to stop, but rather an invitation to trust, grow, and take bold steps forward?
In this edition of Moms Doing It Afraid, we sit down with Peace Eze Abonyi, a media powerhouse who is breaking barriers as a TV presenter, red carpet host, event compere, podcast creator, commercial model, and social media manager—all while navigating marriage and motherhood. Her journey is one of faith, resilience, and an unwavering commitment to both her family and her calling. She shares with us the struggles, triumphs, and lessons that have shaped her path, offering a candid look at what it truly means to pursue your dreams—even when fear is knocking at the door.
Can you share a bit about yourself—who you are, what you do, and what life looks like for you now as a wife, mom, and media professional?
Thank you for the honor. I am Peace Eze. I am the firstborn, first girl, a wife of three years, and a mom of one. I got married at 24, had my baby at 25. Life recently has been a rollercoaster, but guess what? God is the one in control of this fun park ride, so there’s no injury or accident—lol.
I’ve been trying my best to juggle it all; I mean, I’m expected to. I had my OND and HND from Yabatech and am currently pursuing my BSc at the National Open University. I have gotten serious with my content creation because I now see that visibility is a currency—you have to be in people’s faces for them to remember you.
What inspired you to go back for your BSc after four years, and how has the experience been?
The experience started hard and rough. I suffered from what they call a severe form of pregnancy brain, and I didn’t know how bad it was until it was time for my exam this January. Oh, how I cried, I wailed, I almost quit. I remember going to school to ask management how I could defer my admission, but a mom friend encouraged me. It hasn’t been easy for her either, but she told me to do it for myself—do it for the experience and the peace of accomplishment and forget about the first-class craze that was driving me.
I was a standout student. Part of my secondary school was on scholarship, and I left Yabatech with a 2:1, so there was this standard I had set for myself. But reality hit me hard. Two weeks before my exam, I was still struggling to remember what I had read just 14 minutes ago. That was when I cried to God in prayer, wailing and groaning, and He taught me how to study. I finished my exam with 6 A’s, 3 B’s, and 1 C.
For the inspiration, it was more of a commitment. All my life, school and education have been things I easily excel at. I hate business—I’ve tried several and failed. But anything that involves reading, exams, or writing, I do well at. So it just felt right to go ahead. It’s important to note that I dropped out in my HND final year due to my pregnancy (story for another day). I had one of the worst and most terrifying pregnancies, and to this day, the phobia of getting pregnant again lives with me. So when I was ready to go back, I thought, Why not do a BSc instead of HND? Plus, I needed a flexible learning plan because of my role as a mom and my work, and NOUN provided that for me, so I enrolled.
How do you juggle being a mom, student, and media professional? What routines or strategies help you stay grounded?
To be honest, I hate routines—I detest them. That’s why I can never do a 9-5. I am big on freelance or contract jobs, no longer than 3-6 months. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD, and I guess that explains the hatred for routine. I could be hyper today and feel low-spirited tomorrow, so I basically wing my life. God gave me an easy child, which helped, plus my husband is my biggest supporter and my regulator for when I struggle with routines.
How do I juggle it? It’s God and my husband. He chose to work from home since I gave birth, and it’s been that way for three years now. So I can go to work freely without worrying about my daughter—he’s her favorite parent, by the way.
I just leave the house in order, make enough food, and outline or explain any other necessary information to my husband. When I get media jobs like TV shows that take days, I call my mom to come and stay with them. So yeah, my small support circle is more than enough. It’s a luxury I’m grateful to God for.
Have you faced moments of doubt or fear in this journey? If so, what kept you going?
Oh yes. There was a period when I lived in perpetual fear of harm coming to my daughter—Jesus, it was driving me crazy. I later learned it was called postpartum depression. I would imagine accidents—her falling off my arms. I would think about these things so deeply that I would physically shiver and act on the fear. One time, I had one of these fears, and I took my daughter and locked myself in the room with her for over 18 hours. I didn’t want armed robbers or kidnappers to come and take her. Ahhhh, it was terrible.
I was speaking to myself, to the walls—I don’t know what drove me that crazy, but those fears were real until I entered prayer—serious prayer. Nothing except prayer helps, in my opinion. Pray it out, speak it loudly so that it hears you. Pray until you can’t feel it anymore. I still have fears, but now I don’t feed them.
Many moms desire a similar career but think it’s not possible or don’t know where to begin. What advice would you give them? How can they start, and what do they need to do?
My fellow moms,
- Start with your phone. Make video content. Start a series on any topic of interest and talk about it in 1-minute clips. Speak eloquently, look beautiful, and post it.
- Go for formal training. Maybe not a BSc in Mass Communication like I’m doing. Many media organizations offer these training courses for a few months, and you’d be great at it if you have the passion and put in the work. I personally went to NAB Ikeja, enrolled in Media Mogul Tolu Thompson’s Red Carpet Host class, and took many more courses. Learn! Passion is not enough—have knowledge and expertise.
- Volunteer—especially when you have zero experience. Volunteer to build your portfolio. Start with that youth or women’s program in your church, your neighbor’s naming ceremony, or your company’s end-of-year party. Have someone record you. Edit the video beautifully and post it.
One day, someone will call you, pay you, and that’s how it starts.
What’s one piece of advice you would give to moms who feel torn between their family responsibilities and pursuing their dreams?
Both of them can thrive—you just have to first WANT IT & BELIEVE IT. It’s going to be hard—I won’t lie, especially if you’re not wealthy and don’t have a lot of help. But it’s doable. Use my life as an example.
What are you most excited about in this journey? Any big dreams or plans for the future?
Honestly, I can’t wait to hold that BSc certificate in my hand—lol. I’d be done by July next year, all things being equal. For dreams? I just want to excel in this media industry. I will continue to put in the work and give it my best until God says, “It’s your time.”
I certainly do not plan on having more children, at least for the next three years—I haven’t recovered yet. I plan to train, love, and give my all to the little angel I presently have. I plan to achieve and excel in all things with my lovely husband, and I know we will. We work really hard.
Peace Eze Abonyi’s journey is a powerful reminder that motherhood doesn’t mean pressing pause on your dreams. She has faced fear head-on—whether it was returning to school after years away, navigating postpartum depression, or stepping back into the media industry after a long break. Through it all, she has chosen to show up, to keep going, and to trust that her dreams are still valid.
Her story isn’t just about career success; it’s about faith, resilience, and the power of taking the next step—even when afraid. For any mom struggling with doubt, wondering if she can truly balance it all, Peace’s journey is proof that it’s possible. It may not be easy, but with the right mindset, support, and unwavering trust in God, you can create a life where both your family and your dreams thrive.
If you’re looking for a charismatic event host, red carpet compere, TV presenter, or media professional who brings excellence and heart to every project, Peace Eze Abonyi is the woman for the job. Her presence is electric, her voice captivating, and her ability to command a stage unmatched.
To Connect with Peace & Book Her for Your Next Event, find her here on Instagram @peacemyks
Contact Email: helloepeaceeze@email.com
Thank you for reading, see you in our next feature article.
Some wait for the perfect moment. Others, like Susanne Onuminya Ogunleye, step boldly into purpose-fear and all. Recently recognized by Forbes Africa, she is a powerhouse of impact, reshaping narratives in healthcare, leadership, and community empowerment.
From founding Ultra Blue Center, a facility dedicated to personalized healthcare, to mentoring and uplifting female entrepreneurs across Africa, her work is deeply rooted in transformation. As Vice President of MWFAAN, she has led youth empowerment initiatives that change lives. As a consultant at Leadership Foundation, she is equipping the next generation of leaders. And as a speaker, mentor, and changemaker, she embodies what it means to turn purpose into action.
But Susanne’s journey is not just about achievements-it’s about faith, resilience, and doing it afraid. She has faced uncertainty, wrestled with doubts, and still chosen to move forward. In this feature, she opens up about the defining moments that uncovered her purpose, how she overcomes fear, and why she believes true impact comes from embracing vulnerability, courage, and an unwavering commitment to service.
Her story is not just one of success-it’s a call to every woman who has ever questioned her purpose to rise, to lead, and to step into the impact she was created for.
Your work is deeply rooted in impact and transformation. How did you uncover your purpose, and what keeps you committed to living it out boldly
My purpose was uncovered in moments of service and at different times in my life but that discovery started when I became a mother, I shared all of it in my book Ultra blue woman , a journey of motherhood, transformation and self discovery . I realized early on that I am most fulfilled when I’m helping others discover their potential and bridging gaps in my community. The commitment comes from seeing the ripple effects of transformation, how one act of empowerment can inspire generations. Knowing the lives that depend on my work gives me the drive to keep going boldly, even when the journey feels uncertain.
With so many accomplishments under your belt, how do you discern which opportunities align with your mission and the greater good you seek to achieve?
For me, alignment comes through clarity of vision and values. I ask myself if the opportunity advances my mission of creating sustainable impact, collaboration, and if it empowers others. If it aligns with my “why,” I embrace it. But I’ve also learned to say no to opportunities that feel exciting in the moment but don’t align with the greater good I’m working toward. I have also taken roles that I eventually realize distract me from my mission and vision. I leave and realign myself. Your journey is yours, you must not be afraid to take risks or fail. It is how you grow.
Fear is a constant companion when stepping into the unknown. How has faith or your inner convictions helped you “do it afraid”?
I do it afraid all the time! Faith has been my anchor in the face of fear. I trust that every step I take, even in uncertainty, is divinely guided. I remind myself that fear doesn’t disqualify me; it’s simply part of the process. My conviction that my work has a higher purpose keeps me moving forward, even when I feel vulnerable. In fact the fear is a guide that you are taking a bold step. Just breathe!
What role does vulnerability play in your journey as a leader, mom, and advocate for community growth?
Vulnerability has been one of my greatest strengths. It allows me to connect authentically with others, to admit when I need help, and to inspire others by sharing my own struggles. As a mom and leader, vulnerability reminds me that I don’t have to have it all figured out; I just need to keep showing up with courage and empathy. I am never afraid to be vulnerable. Vulnerability allows you to be your authentic self and there is no one else like you on this earth.
Every impactful journey comes with its share of struggles. What is one struggle you never expected, and how did it grow or refine you?
I have had many struggles. Haha! Each day with its own. One struggle I didn’t expect was the challenge of balancing my personal aspirations with the needs of my family and community. It stretched me in ways I didn’t foresee, but it also refined my priorities and taught me the importance of boundaries, delegation, and self-care. It reminded me that I can’t pour into others from an empty cup. It also taught me to be intentional and deliberate. Learn to give 100 to whatever needs my attention at the time. Oftentimes, we have to make sacrifices or trade-offs.
How do you maintain focus on your vision while navigating setbacks, doubts, or external pressures?
I stay focused by revisiting my “why” and writing the vision out. I also recently started visualizing the journey and question your why every now and then to ensure you are on the right track with the right intentions . Journaling, prayer, and seeking mentorship/support help me stay grounded when doubts arise. I’ve also learned to see setbacks as redirections rather than failures. At some point in my life I would deal with serious anxiety when problems arose. I am learning to stay calm even in the strongest storms. The external pressures can be heavy, but I remind myself that growth often comes from enduring discomfort but discomfort for a good purpose.
As a mom building a legacy of impact and innovation, what’s one value you want your children to embrace from watching your journey?
I want my children to embrace the value of resilience, humanity, kindness, empathy, love and gratitude . I want them to understand that challenges are part of life and that with determination, faith, and integrity, they can overcome anything. I hope they see my journey as an example of how passion and perseverance can lead to a meaningful life.
In what ways has being a mother shaped your vision for empowering women and communities?Motherhood has deepened my empathy and given me a clearer understanding of what communities need to thrive. It’s also shown me how powerful women are, balancing so much and still making a difference. I see every woman I empower as someone whose ripple effect will impact generations, just as the decisions I make as a mom will shape my children’s future.
What’s one piece of advice you would give to moms who feel torn between their family responsibilities and pursuing their dreams?
You don’t have to choose between your family and your dreams both can coexist. Give yourself permission to prioritize your passions because a fulfilled mom is a better mom. Include your family in your journey, let them see the sacrifices and the triumphs so they understand the value of pursuing purpose.
If your story were to inspire one woman to step into her purpose, what would you want her to take away from it?
I’d want her to know that purpose doesn’t require perfection. It’s okay to feel scared, uncertain, or even unprepared just take the first step. Your unique story and gifts have the power to transform lives, and the world is waiting for what only you can offer. Own your power! Lead with purpose. Your DNA is a masterpiece.
Susanne Onuminya Ogunleye’s journey is a testament to the power of purpose over perfection. She has proven that true impact is not about having it all figured out but about showing up, leading with conviction, and embracing both the challenges and triumphs along the way.
Through her work in healthcare, leadership, and community empowerment, she continues to bridge gaps, uplift others, and redefine what it means to be a woman of impact. But perhaps the most powerful lesson from her journey is this: fear and uncertainty are not roadblocks—they are the signs that you’re stepping into something greater. For every woman standing at the edge of her calling, unsure of the next step, Susanne’s story is a reminder: Do it afraid. Do it boldly. Do it with purpose. The world is waiting for what only you can give.
To learn more about Susanne’s work and ongoing projects, follow her journey here.
Welcome to our “Moms Doing It Afraid” series, where we celebrate courageous moms who are defying the odds and pursuing their dreams while balancing the demands of motherhood. Today, we’re honored to feature Chinyere Uchendu, popularly known as “Sixfiguremom.” As a LinkedIn Top Digital Marketing Voice, Social Entrepreneur, and Digital Marketing Consultant, Chinyere has inspired countless women to carve out successful work-from-home careers. In this interview, she shares her journey, challenges, and the invaluable lessons she’s learned along the way. Her story is a testament to the power of resilience, determination, and faith in oneself.
Can you tell us a bit about yourself and how you became known as the “Six Figure Mom” in the digital space, particularly in helping women start work-from-home careers?
My name is Chinyere Uchendu (aka Sixfiguremom), LinkedIn’s Top Digital Marketing Voice, Social Entrepreneur, and Digital Marketing Consultant. I was inspired to start Sixfiguremom during COVID-19 to help women work and earn remotely. The Sixfiguremom community empowers women to know that in this Era you don’t have to choose between raising a family and your career, you can do both successfully.
As someone who has successfully transitioned to a work-from-home career, what inspired you to start helping other women pursue similar paths, and what drives your passion for empowering women in this way?
As a mom who transitioned to a work-from-home career, my inspiration to help other women pursue similar paths started from my journey. I understand the challenges women face balancing work and family life, and I’m passionate about empowering them to achieve their career goals while prioritizing their personal lives. Seeing other women succeed and thrive in flexible work arrangements fuels my drive to support and uplift them in their endeavors.
What were some of the challenges you faced when starting your work-from-home career, and how did you overcome them while balancing your responsibilities as a mother?
The Journey has been rewarding and challenging at the same time. The testimonials I got from Sixfigurenation make me keep pushing knowing that women can earn a decent living with the phones in their hands. The challenging aspect of building a client base from scratch, navigating the intricacies of running a business, and managing a team of remote assistants has presented its share of hurdles. However, witnessing our services’ positive impact on our clients’ lives and businesses has been incredibly satisfying.
I have encountered different challenges one of them is Time Zone Differences and remote communication, some clients prefer people from their country but I had to build trust by ensuring we overdeliver on our promises thereby making us retain over 85% of clients.
Many moms may feel hesitant or uncertain about pursuing their dreams while balancing motherhood. What advice would you give to moms who aspire to start their own work-from-home careers but may feel overwhelmed or unsure about where to begin?
Balancing motherhood and pursuing your dreams can feel overwhelming sometimes but it’s possible. My advice is to start small – what are you passionate about? What are you good at? This can help you narrow down potential work-from-home opportunities that align with your strengths and interests.
Set Realistic Goals: Understand that building a successful work-from-home career takes time and effort. Celebrate your little wins along the way, no matter how small they may seem.
Don’t be afraid to delegate or Seek Support from friends, family, or online communities. Surround yourself with people who understand your goals and can offer encouragement and advice along the way.
Can you share a pivotal moment or experience from your journey that inspired you to continue pushing forward, especially during challenging times, and how it has shaped your perspective on motherhood and career?
One pivotal moment that stands out to me was when I faced a particularly tough time managing my work-from-home career while also being there for my children during a period of illness. It was incredibly challenging to balance the demands of my job with the needs of my family, especially when my children required extra care and attention.
During that time, I realized just how resilient and adaptable I could be. I learned to prioritize and manage my time more effectively, finding creative solutions to meet deadlines while still being present for my children. It wasn’t easy, but seeing the strength and determination I had to keep going despite the obstacles was incredibly empowering.This experience taught me the importance of flexibility and resilience in both motherhood and career.
How do you incorporate self-care and maintain your own well-being while juggling the demands of motherhood and a successful work-from-home career?
Incorporating self-care into my routine is essential for maintaining my well-being while juggling motherhood and my work-from-home career.
I try to Prioritize Time for Myself for instance reading a book, taking a walk, we have adult and kids time (laugh) so that everyone in the family can feel comfortable.
Set Boundaries: I establish clear boundaries between work time and family time to prevent burnout
Connect with Others: Maintaining connections with friends, family, and supportive communities is important for my mental and emotional well-being.
What are some key lessons you’ve learned along your journey that you believe can empower other moms to pursue their dreams and achieve success in both their personal and professional lives?
Embrace flexibility, prioritize self-care, seek support, set boundaries, and persevere through challenges. Remember, it’s okay to ask for help and to adjust your plans as needed. Celebrate small victories and stay focused on long-term goals. Balancing motherhood and career requires dedication, but it’s possible with determination and resilience. Trust in your abilities and pursue your dreams with confidence, knowing that you have the strength to overcome obstacles. Your journey may have its ups and downs, but every step forward is a testament to your strength and determination.
Can you share a success story or moment of pride from your work helping other moms start their work-from-home careers? How does seeing other moms succeed fuel your passion and drive?
I have so many AHA moments! Seeing women make a move from I can’t do this before but now I am a Pro! Seeing some make their first 50,000, 100,000 to millions working from home is a huge success for me. Witnessing other moms succeed ignites my passion and determination, serving as a reminder of what’s achievable despite challenges.
Recently, one of the moms in my community got a remote Job that pays her N1,000,00 plus monthly. Her words before the interview were pray for me, am about to become a millionaire! It was a huge success for me knowing that once you can implement what you learned, success is the next thing.
Seeing other moms succeed inspires me to push through obstacles, showing me that motherhood and career goals are not mutually exclusive. Each success story fuels my drive, reaffirming that with perseverance and support, I too can achieve my dreams. It’s a shared journey of empowerment, where seeing others thrive motivates me to strive for excellence in both my personal and professional life.
What role do you believe mindset and self-belief play in the journey of a mom pursuing her dreams, and how do you help women cultivate these qualities through your coaching and guidance?
Mindset and self-belief are important in a mom’s journey toward her dreams. A positive mindset fuels resilience, enabling her to navigate challenges with grace. Self-belief empowers her to push boundaries and pursue her aspirations boldly.
Through my coaching and guidance, I foster these qualities by encouraging self-reflection, challenging limiting beliefs, and providing tools for self-care and growth. I cultivate a supportive environment where moms feel heard, understood, and empowered to embrace their potential. Together, we celebrate achievements, overcome obstacles, and cultivate a mindset of abundance and possibility, laying the foundation for them to thrive in both motherhood and their dreams.
Lastly, what message or words of encouragement would you like to share with other moms who may be hesitant to pursue their dreams or take risks in their lives while navigating motherhood?
My words of encouragement to all moms would be to pursue their dreams amidst motherhood’s demands: You are capable, resilient, and deserving of fulfillment. Embrace the journey, knowing that your dreams matter and are within reach. Step out of your comfort zone, and trust in your abilities. Remember, it’s okay to stumble along the way, each setback is a chance to grow stronger.
Lean on your support network, prioritize self-care, and believe in yourself fiercely. You have the power to create a life that aligns with your passions and values. Embrace the adventure, and watch as your dreams flourish alongside your beautiful journey of motherhood.
Chinyere Uchendu’s story is a powerful reminder that motherhood and career success are not mutually exclusive. Her journey from a work-from-home mom to a celebrated digital marketing expert demonstrates the incredible potential within each of us to pursue our dreams, no matter the challenges we face. Through her Sixfiguremom community, Chinyere continues to empower women, proving that with the right mindset, support, and determination, we can all achieve our goals.
If Chinyere’s story has inspired you, and you’re ready to take the first step toward your own work-from-home career, we invite you to join her community of purpose driven women. Whether you’re looking for practical advice, mentorship, or simply a community of like-minded women, Six figure Mom is here to help you navigate your journey. Follow her on Instagram @sixfiguremom to sign up for her courses and start your path toward a fulfilling and balanced life. For free digital knowledge, subscribe to her YouTube channel: The Tech Skills Studio
Thank you for the love and support you’ve shown for the “Moms Doing It Afraid” series. If these stories are inspiring you to make a change in your own life, we’d love to continue the conversation in our Instagram community. Follow us@themomconversation_ and join a network of inspiring moms who are doing it afraid and making their dreams a reality. Together, we can uplift and empower each other on this incredible journey.
Until next time, keep showing up, doing it afraid, we are rooting for you.
The Mom Conversation: Tell us a bit about yourself and what inspired you to become a therapist while managing your roles as a mother and community founder of Mum Confessions?Tinuke: Hiii. My name is Tinuke, I’m a mum of 2, and I’m a mental health therapist. I have a first degree in Biochemistry, and a master’s in management in health and social care. I have always been interested in the helping profession. However, my journey to motherhood is the reason why I’m a therapist today. I’ve had 3 miscarriages and suffered with postpartum depression. My experience after the first miscarriage, not feeling understood, and then now going on to experience PPD really left me feeling alone. And that’s why I started mum confessions. I needed a space to say everything I was feeling without being told that I needed to be grateful or that I was being negative. I just needed to unburden and actually started mum confessions anonymously for this reason. Along the line though, the community grew, and I realized many women still needed professional support beyond the peer support we offered, and that’s how my journey to becoming a therapist started.
As a mother, entrepreneur, and now therapist, how do you balance your various roles and responsibilities, and what strategies have you found most effective in maintaining harmony in your life?
As a mum, balancing multiple roles and responsibilities is undoubtedly a juggling act. Over time, however, I think I’ve found what works for me.
First and foremost, I’ve learnt to delegate tasks. It’s something I struggled with, and still do sometimes. However, since it clicked that time is a finite resource, and that no matter what I did, I still get the same 24 hours a day, I started prioritizing more and then delegating what can be done by others. Back then, I would work till late into the night because I was doing everything myself. I felt that no one could do it like me. Then I wasn’t sleeping enough, which made me cranky and annoying at the end of the day. lol. I’ve gotten better at communicating my needs and it’s working out well.
Another thing I practice is time blocking, where I allocate specific blocks of time for different activities. This helps me maintain focus and prevent tasks from bleeding into each other. I used to think multitasking was a flex, but as I’ve grown older, it just doesn’t work for me anymore. I realize it makes one more prone to errors. So, I try to be realistic about what I can accomplish in a day and prioritize accordingly. The goal now is progress, not perfection. I also try to utilize technology as much as possible. For example, using scheduling apps for social media, calendars to save important plans etc.
Having routines at home has been very beneficial to us too. Not only does it give the kids stability, but it also helps me balance both fronts without feeling overwhelmed. I’m better able to set boundaries between my work life and family life. Having a supportive partner has been very helpful on this journey. Being flexible, setting boundaries and practicing self-care are other things that help me.
Finally, I have learnt that we can have it all, but not at the same time. Life is in phases, and I’ve learnt to embrace this by focusing on what’s most important in the moment. For example, writing is something I enjoyed doing for the longest time, but I’ve had to walk away from that to focus on my evolving priorities and long-term goals.
Recognizing my limitations, knowing where to invest my time and energy and not overextending myself has been crucial in maintaining balance.
What challenges did you face along your journey to becoming a therapist, and how did you overcome them?
The major challenge was my mind. Transitioning to a new career path in my 30s brought about feelings of uncertainty about my qualifications and capabilities. I questioned whether I was truly prepared to take on the responsibilities of being a therapist and whether I had the necessary skills and expertise. There was self-doubt and imposter syndrome.
To overcome this challenge, I reminded myself of my passion for helping others and my innate desire to make a positive impact in people’s lives. Then I actively worked on building my confidence by focusing on my strengths and achievements, and by acknowledging that it’s okay to embark on a new path and grow along the way.
Another challenge I encountered was managing the demands of studying while balancing family commitments and other responsibilities. For this, I developed a structured plan that allowed me to allocate time effectively to my studies while still being present for my family. I communicated openly with my family about my goals and commitments, and we worked together to find ways to support each other through this transition. I also learned to be flexible.
Many women struggle with pursuing their dreams while managing family obligations. What advice would you give to mothers who aspire to pursue higher education or career changes later in life?
I’ll say, Just do it!
As a fellow woman and mum, I understand how overwhelming it is to balance family obligations with personal aspirations, and the fear of the unknown can be daunting. However, from my experience and interactions with other women in the community, I believe that it’s essential for women to prioritize their dreams and goals, even in the face of these challenges.
Acknowledge your fears and doubts, but don’t allow them to hold you back. It’s natural to feel apprehensive but please know that the perfect time may never come. Waiting for the ideal circumstances could mean delaying or even forfeiting opportunities altogether. Remember that pursuing your dreams not only benefits you but also sets a powerful example for your children.
At the same time, please be realistic about the challenges ahead and plan accordingly. Get support from your family and friends. Explore flexible educational or career options that can accommodate your family responsibilities. Prioritize self-care and find ways to manage stress and maintain balance amidst the demands of both family and personal pursuits.
Just take the first step, trust God and everything else will fall into place.
What motivates you to continue pushing forward, especially during challenging times, and how do you stay focused on your goals?
Remembering why I started really motivates me and keeps me going. I am driven by a deep sense of purpose and passion and committed to making a meaningful difference in the lives of others. Rather than letting challenges deter me, I see them as opportunities for growth. Then having a vision board helps me stay focused on my goals, having a clear vision of what I want to achieve. This keeps me going.
Can you share a particularly inspiring moment or achievement from your journey that has fuelled your passion for empowering women and mothers?
One particularly inspiring moment from my journey that has fuelled my passion for empowering women and mothers occurred when I witnessed the transformation of a mum who reached out. She was a toddler mum, married to a narcissistic man. He used to lock her up when going to work and locked the kitchen too. They could only eat in the evenings when he returned, and he would measure everything she cooked. He cut her off from friends and family, but they went to church together on Sundays. Thankfully, she had a phone given to her by someone in church and he didn’t know about it. One Sunday out of frustration, she reported to their pastor. When they got home, he burnt all her clothes saying he’d see how will report him when she had nothing to wear.
She felt overwhelmed, drained, and unsure of how to move forward. So, she sent in a message, and we arranged to talk when he went to work. I shared her story, had 2 mums in her location check in to confirm her story, and then with the support of the community, she was able to move away from him. We were also able to raise some money for her to begin her new life.
She started by frying puff-puff and then moved to selling fabrics when she noticed they didn’t have enough vendors for this at her new location. It’s been 2 years and she’s now a successful fabric merchant, while her daughter attends school. She is so confident now. Witnessing her journey from a place of helplessness and uncertainty to one of empowerment was incredibly moving and deeply resonated with me.
Seeing firsthand the positive impact that empowerment can have on a woman’s life reaffirmed my belief in the importance of supporting and uplifting women and mothers.
What role has your community played in supporting your personal and professional growth, and how do you aim to give back to other women through your experiences?
The mum confessions community has been instrumental in supporting my personal and professional growth in numerous ways. The stories I’ve heard and the connections I’ve made within the community have provided invaluable insights and inspiration that have shaped my journey.
Having a supportive community has kept me accountable and motivated me to continue pushing forward, even during challenging times. As a result, I’m deeply committed to giving back. I recently launched a free 15-minute counselling session for anyone who wishes to speak to someone, recognizing the importance of mental health support, especially during challenging times. This initiative aims to provide a safe space for individuals to seek guidance and support, regardless of their circumstances.
I also plan to start some form of capacity-building/ mentorship for women soon. These sessions will focus on empowering women with the skills, knowledge, and resources they need to thrive personally and professionally. My goal is to create opportunities for women to learn, grow, and support each other in their journey towards success.
What do you think are the most important qualities or skills that women need to cultivate in order to pursue their dreams fearlessly?
I’d say self-belief or self confidence, you have to first believe in yourself and your abilities. Courage, resilience, self discipline, adaptability, empathy and trust in God.
How do you prioritize self-care and maintain your own well-being while supporting others in your community and profession?
One way I prioritize self-care is by incorporating regular practices into my daily routine that feed my physical, mental, and emotional health. I walk 4-5 times a week, for at least 30 minutes each day. I journal daily and I’m intentional about spending time with my husband and kids. These activities help me recharge my energy. I also try to eat as clean as possible 80% of the time.
In addition, I recognize the importance of setting boundaries and practicing self-compassion. And so, I strive to establish clear boundaries around my time and energy, ensuring that I have sufficient resources to meet my own needs before extending myself to others. This may involve saying ‘no’ to additional commitments when necessary or delegating tasks to others in order to preserve my well-being.
Lastly, what message or words of encouragement would you like to share with other women who may be hesitant to pursue their dreams or take risks in their lives?
You deserve to be happy, fulfilled, and to achieve everything you aspire to. Your dreams are valid, and I want you to know that you are capable of far more than you may realize. Pursuing your dreams and taking risks isn’t selfish. Remember, it’s not just about you. By pursuing your dreams, you not only fulfil your own potential but also inspire and positively impact those around you, including your family, children, and community.
You were created for a purpose, and your dreams are a reflection of that purpose. You have the power to make a positive impact, to leave a lasting legacy, and to create meaningful change in the world.
So, I encourage every woman to boldly pursue her dreams. Know that challenges may arise along the way, but each obstacle is an opportunity for growth. Believe in yourself, trust in your abilities, and never underestimate the power of your dreams. The world is waiting for you to shine your light brightly and to make your mark. You have everything it takes to succeed.
Tinuke’s story is a beacon of hope, reminding us of the strength that lies within each of us. Through her experiences, she inspires women to embrace their dreams, overcome obstacles, and create positive change in their lives. As we celebrate Tinuke’s journey, let us carry forward her message of empowerment, knowing that with courage and determination, anything is possible.
To connect with Tinuke and learn more about her work , find her Here and Here on Instagram.
Thank you for joining us for this inspiring conversation with Tinuke. Her story is a powerful reminder of the strength and resilience that comes from embracing our fears and pursuing our dreams with faith and determination.
Stay tuned for our next interview in the “Moms Doing It Afraid” series, where we will continue to share the remarkable journeys of moms who are bravely following their passions. You won’t want to miss the next interview!
Until then, keep showing up, embracing your journey, and doing it afraid.
I’m rooting for you always!
As moms, we often face the challenge of balancing our dreams and ambitions with the demands of motherhood. Yet, many inspiring women prove that it’s possible to thrive in both areas, showing us that motherhood doesn’t have to limit our potential. We are thrilled to introduce our new monthly series, “Moms Doing It Afraid,” dedicated to celebrating these courageous moms.
Why “Moms Doing It Afraid”?
The idea for this series was born out of admiration for the countless moms who exemplify growth and determination in both their personal and professional lives. These moms are pursuing their dreams within and outside of motherhood, proving that it’s possible to be a devoted mom and still achieve all you desire and more. Our goal is to highlight their stories and provide a platform for them to share their journeys, challenges, and triumphs.
What You Can Expect
Each month, we will feature an in-depth interview with a mom who has embraced her fears and pursued her dreams. From launching a business to achieving personal milestones, these stories will showcase the incredible resilience and ambition of moms who thrive in motherhood. We hope these stories will inspire, empower, and connect our community of moms.
In each interview, you’ll learn about the specific challenges these moms faced, the strategies they used to overcome their fears, and the successes they have achieved along the way. We’ll delve into their daily routines, their sources of inspiration, and the support systems that have helped them persevere. By sharing these stories, we aim to create a supportive network where moms can draw strength and motivation from one another.
Motherhood is often romanticized as a role that should come naturally and without struggle. However, the reality is that balancing personal ambitions with parenting responsibilities can be daunting. By celebrating these brave moms, we want to dismantle the myth that motherhood and personal aspirations are mutually exclusive. Instead, we want to show that embracing both can lead to a fulfilling and empowered life.
Stay Tuned
We can’t wait to share the first interview in our “Moms Doing It Afraid” series. Stay tuned for stories that celebrate the strength, courage, and growth of moms who are pursuing their dreams and showing that motherhood is not a barrier to success. Through these narratives, we aim to build a community that supports and uplifts each other, proving that with determination and faith, anything is possible.
Thank you for joining us on this journey. Let’s celebrate the incredible moms who are doing it afraid and proving that we can be everything we aspire to be and more. Together, we can redefine motherhood and inspire a generation of women who are unafraid to chase their dreams.